‘If you say you can or you can't you are right either way.’ Henry Ford
4 ways to lose your confidence.
We talked earlier about how you can boost your confidence. You need to do things, especially new things, so you can feel good about yourself. Then, why don’t you do things? Why do you procrastinate? Why do you sabotage your best efforts?
Let’s look at some of the reasons you don’t do the things you know will help you.
The fear of change.
Often there is a payoff for not tackling new tasks. You may not want to upset the status quo. Change means new beginnings, new territories to explore. It may feel safe to stay in the same old, same old. It is safe and familiar and predictable – and you know where you are and what to expect. Anything unknown can be scary.
Your inner critic.
This is the little voice inside your head that tells you all the reasons why you can’t do something. Your inner critic will tell you not to try anything new because you will fail. You are not perfect so why try. It says things like ‘you know you are a hopeless writer, or artist or whatever’. It says ‘how embarrassing when you fall over and make a mess of things. Don’t make a fool of yourself’.
These beliefs are the stories you learnt to tell yourself after some hurt or set back in life. They become like a mantra that you repeat over and over in your mind. The thought might be ‘I am unworthy’ or ‘unlovable’ or ‘not good enough’ or whatever. These little phrases are hard to erase – but they are not impossible to eliminate.
Your friends or your children may like to know you are a soft touch. They have factored in that you are a certain way – and you react in a certain way. They may actively discourage any change and any creativity you may be displaying.
Fast Track Real. Confidence shows you how to deal with each scenario. Each one is tricky but it is not impossible to get rid of any of them.
All it takes is ten minutes of writing in your journal writing, with the guidance of the cards, each day. Then you can have the changes and the confidence that you always wanted, but were never game to go for.